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Dad leaves heart-breaking note to 3 year-old son, after taking his own life due to Lockdown

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A “kind, caring and amazing” dad-of-one heartbreakingly took his own life after his deteriorating mental health and the pressures of the third lockdown turned his life into “Groundhog Day”.

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Ross McCarthy, 31, who is originally from Sheffield, died last month after a long mental health battle which saw him struggle to get the help he needed to overcome his inner demons.

His sister Laura McCarthy, 29, described him as “the life and soul of the party” who would do “anything for anyone”.

However, he ended up having to find and pay for his own counsellor in a desperate search for inner peace, and despite a recent improvement in his mental wellbeing, the third lockdown eventually ended up overwhelming him.

His fiancée Charlotte, 26, with whom Ross had a three-year-old son called Charlie, said: “The first lockdown was easy because you could go in the back garden.

“It was fantastic because you could get out and go for walks but this one he worked throughout on sites in this cold weather and us not being able to do anything had a massive impact.

“I knew he struggled but I never did comprehend just how much.

“Mental health has been a silent killer of this Covid-19 pandemic. He struggled and he mentioned that it felt like Groundhog Day.”

The couple, who lived in Stockton-on-Tees, which is where Charlotte hails from, had been due to get married last Christmas with the pandemic forcing them to put their plans on hold.

She described her fiancé as an “excitable puppy” and “kind soul” who never let his mental health problems turn him into a nasty person.

Charlotte said: “He wanted to help as many people as he could – from protecting his family and friends, to staying back to make sure no one was left behind on a lads’ holidays and to inviting friends in need to stay with us.

“He had anyone’s back when trouble was around and he could never see someone struggle.

“But through all this Ross struggled himself, more than any one of us could possibly comprehend. The one blinding difference with Ross was that unlike some, who let pain make them bitter and nasty, he never allowed it to.

“Throughout all his battles he was a kind caring soul.”

She described him as her “best friend, the love of my life and soulmate”, and said he had no greater love than his love for his son Charlie.

“No words will ever be enough to describe his love for him,” she said. “He would have moved mountains for him and he was an amazing dad.

“They brought each other happiness in a way I will struggle to match, however hard I try.”

Charlotte and Charlie have been supported in their grief by Ross’ family and in a poignant touch she is planning to change her name by deed poll to McCarthy.

Ross’ dad Mike McCarthy, 63, said that his son, who worked as an instrumentation engineer, left a note after taking his own life.

In it, he called on his family to continue fighting for better mental health provision after his decade long struggle to get the help he so desperately needed.

Mike said: “Ross left a note and said ‘I could live through Charlie and that he is me without the faults’.

“We don’t think he had any [faults] but he thought he did and that was part of this illness and the voice that let him think that.

“It’s not about blame and we are not going to try and go down that route but we just want to turn this into something positive.

“He mentioned it in his letter that he wanted us to continue the fight for mental health.

“There are a lot of people out there that you can call for help but it’s the physical and mental support beyond that.

“You can’t put someone on a six-month waiting list if they are terminally ill and could die very soon.

“Ross didn’t get the kind of mental health support he should have got and we are keen to campaign on his behalf so other people don’t end up in the situation he did where he was fighting to get help and having to pay for his own counsellor.

“For me, I refer to it as cancer of the mind and had it been a physical cancer, it would have been treated more urgently than his mental health.”

Now, the family, including Charlotte, Laura, Mike, Ross’ mother Glenys, 62, and his brother Tom, are pledging to devote their lives to raising awareness of Ross’ story and the lack of mental health support available, particularly to men.

Suicide is the single biggest killer of men under the age of 45 in the UK, and Mike says one of his goals is to find out the reason behind this devastating statistic.

Laura said: “Ross’ note said he wanted us to fight for mental health and that is my mission in life.

Glenys, 62, added: “Charlotte and Charlie will always be our family. We will carry on Ross’ fight. He fought so hard to keep going and he gave so much joy to other people but just didn’t have enough for himself.”

Source – Examiner Live

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2 years ago

Wheh a government allows the creation of conditions that they know will cause psychological damage to the population they must be held responsible for the result of their actions.
Follow the science – all the way to the bank
Soon perhaps use of the phrase ” The good old days” will attract punitive fines.
To think this circus all began with a clown.

2 years ago

This is so sad and as we know, this is just one of many who have been so badly affected by the criminals calling the shots.

2 years ago

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